Thursday, November 30, 2017

My First Indian Wedding

Last week I went to my first Indian wedding.  The first event I attended was a dance party with the groom's family.  After a long drive across town in Delhi's notorious traffic, we arrived to the home of the groom's mother.  My friend, and groom's sister, Deepali welcomed us and introduced us to all the family members who were bustling around with last minute preparations.

Dressed up and ready to dance!

A large tent had been erected in the courtyard of the housing complex.  When the music started playing, I discovered that the entire neighborhood would have the pleasure of enjoying the loud music whether they wanted to or not!  I suppose one of them couldn't resist joining in because later in the evening, Deepali pointed to an uninvited guest on the dance floor who no one knew!  It was a fun evening of singing, dancing, eating, and celebrating with the groom.

Drummers kept the dance floor lively

The wedding provided the perfect opportunity to buy some Indian clothing.  At first, I thought I'd buy a sari.  But others warned me I might have run out of time to get a sari properly tailored and that if I didn't get it on properly, I risked an unfortunate wardrobe malfunction.  So I hit the stores to look for something else.  After trying on multiple outfits with the help of a very patient salesman, I was able to find an ensemble that fit my price range and didn't need any tailoring.

First outfit I tried on was the winner

On the wedding night, I of course was running behind schedule and was worried I'd get there late.  In this case, it was fortunate that Indian weddings never start on time.  We had plenty of time to admire the venue and eat some appetizers before the couple arrived.  The groom arrived first, making quite an entrance.  A procession of his family and friends, flanked by musicians and lighted umbrella carriers, led the groom down the street in his carriage drawn by a white horse.  After extended singing, dancing, and picture-taking, he entered the venue to await his bride.

Groom with his chariot and lantern bearers

After the groom's grand entrance, I expected even more fanfare for the bride.  But she arrived quietly, on foot, under a simple canopy with select family members.  She made her way across the floor, stopping often for photo ops, until finally reaching her groom, at which point the couple was encircled by both happy families.

The bride's entrance was more subdued

Although the couple would be participating in several religious ceremonies into the wee hours of the night, I noticed that many guest were starting to leave.  Clearly the night was drawing to a close for the guests.  After giving my congratulations to the newlyweds, I took my leave as well.  I want to thank my friends Deepali, Deepti, Yamini, and Sachin for being my cultural ambassadors for my first Indian wedding!

My fabulous wedding dates

Friday, November 10, 2017

Melbourne Cup

Before moving to New Delhi, I had never heard of the Melbourne Cup.  But soon after arriving, I quickly learned that the Melbourne Cup is a pretty big deal, that the Australian Embassy in New Delhi throws a big party for it, and that I didn't want to miss it.

The Melbourne Cup itself is an annual horse race, a bit like the Kentucky Derby.  In addition to the race itself, the day has other traditions and becomes an excuse to party...Aussie style.  First is the attire.  It's an understatement to say that people get dressed up.  Bold, bright colors and big, fancy hats are encouraged...for both men and women.  In fact, the actual race features a fashion show amongst attendees at the racecourse and thus it's customary for other Melbourne Cup celebrations to follow suit.  Here in Delhi, I especially enjoyed the best-dressed men's competition, which showcased some atrociously loud, floral suits.  Equally fun was the competition for best fascinator, those half-hat headpieces I always associate with British royalty.

Best fascinator nominee

After the fashion show was the raffle drawing.  I was at the buffet table as the first number was drawn and the emcee warned that winners had only 20 seconds to claim their prize.  I finished filling my plate, got back to my seat, and pulled out my raffle tickets.  Just as he counted down "3 - 2 - 1 - times up!" I spied the winning ticket in my stack.  Darn, I had missed out on DIAMOND EARRINGS because I was topping off my dessert with whipped cream!


In my garden party best

But the real centerpiece of any Aussie gathering is drinking.  The key race of the Melbourne Cup kicked off at 3:00 pm in Melbourne.  Because of the team difference, that made it 9:30 am in New Delhi.  So the event here was a brunch with lots of wine and champagne that turned into a drunken dance party by 12:00 noon!  Now that I fully understand all the pomp and circumstance of the Melbourne Cup, I have a full year to plan my fascinator and make next year's party even better!

Flanked by some of my finely attired embassy colleagues